I cannot for sure say that I have “walked in your shoes”, but I certainly have more than a few things in common with my clients. This might explain why clients do find me relatable, understanding, empathic, and non-judgmental. I work hard at creating an open and accepting environment, because in order to share your thoughts and feelings you needy to feel comfortable and safe. I have been on the receiving end of services where I was extremely guarded and so careful about what I said for fear of judgment and criticism. I don’t want my clients to ever feel this way.
The research out there on why people improve through therapy consistently concludes that one of the most important factors is the client/therapist relationship. It tends not to matter whether the therapist is trained in “X” or uses the techniques of “Y &Z”, there is little gained unless a strong alliance with your client is developed. In a nutshell, I focus on creating a working relationship where you will feel accepted, respected, and heard. The working relationship also allows you to tell me if you aren’t feeling accepted, respected, and heard.